You’ve done some meaningful reflection in the last few exercises — so what does all of that have to do with wanting and discovering more in life?
First, I want you to see just how powerfully your thoughts shape what you experience. (And no, this isn’t about thinking positive and pretending everything’s fine.)
Second, just like when you use a map, you need to know where you are before you can figure out where you want to go.
That begs the question — where do you want to go?!
All in good time — we’ll get there in my next blog.
For now, you’ve taken stock of some repetitive thoughts that tend to show up in your mind. You may have had some big “Aha!” moments about certain thoughts that aren’t serving you, but you’re not sure what to do next. So, let’s take a moment to look at how this process really works.
As humans, our minds are incredibly powerful. Not only can we notice the thoughts running through our heads, but we can also change them — and choose new thoughts on purpose.
This is important because your thoughts drive everything in your life.
Here’s the chain:
Thought → Feeling → Action → Results
How?
Your thoughts impact how you feel, and how you feel determines what you do (or don’t do).
A Simple Example
Sometimes while working, I catch myself thinking, “I’m tired” over and over. Yet I’ve slept well and I’m not physically tired. When I pause and ask, “What’s really going on?” I usually discover I’m bored or restless.
That thought — “I’m tired” — makes me feel dull and sluggish, and my results match it.
But when I interrupt that thought and ask, “How do I want to feel?” — maybe determined — I can choose a new thought like:
“I’m going to finish this in 20 minutes and do quality work.”
Suddenly, I feel focused and energized. Nothing around me changed, but everything about my experience did.
Another Example
Have you ever thought, “This is all life has to offer”? For me, that thought shuts everything down. It’s discouraging and limiting — it closes the door on curiosity and possibility.
But when I shift to, “I know there’s more to life,” everything opens up. I feel curious, hopeful, and motivated to explore what that “more” might be.
Bringing It Together
For some of you, this idea — that thoughts create feelings which drive actions — might sound familiar. For others, it may feel new or a bit abstract.
Wherever you are, know this: you don’t have to figure it out alone. Changing your thoughts takes practice, and it can be tricky to navigate at first — that’s where coaching helps.
Reach out for a free consult. There’s no obligation — just a chance to see what’s possible when you start thinking on purpose.